Thursday, February 24, 2011

My Turn...

            First of all, I should say thank you to anyone who is reading this.  It has been amazing, and very humbling, to me to see how many people actually have a vested interest in Danielle’s and my life.  So much of life is contingent on factors beyond our control, and this has shown me how God can use his people in these situations to show how much he really loves us.
            Danielle started this blog off by telling a little about our past.  I think it is only fair, and very necessary, that I talk a bit about who Danielle is.  Especially for those of you who have not had the chance to meet her.
            Danielle is a morning person.  I am not.  I think she is really the first person I have ever known to actually wake up happy.  While I wake up slow, and spend the first 45 minutes I’m up stumbling around in a haze, Danielle pops out of bed, and within moments, she can be dancing and singing around the house.  This, to me, is a great insight to her personality.  Especially the singing.  I used to mock musicals because “people don’t just randomly burst into choreographed song and dance.”  Well, it may not always be choreographed, but sometimes I feel like I went to bed one night, and through some weird twilight zone accident, woke up in the middle of a musical.  Thankfully, she has a beautiful voice.
            For some time before I met Danielle, and for most of the time I’ve known her, Danielle has been a nanny.  I think she’s an incredible photographer, and really, there is very little that she tries that she’s not good at.  However, there is something special about her working as a nanny.  This is actually one of the first things that attracted me to her.  Any of you who have spent much time around her have probably noticed that children seem to flock to her, almost in pied piper fashion.  I have yet to see a child that didn’t completely adore Danielle.
            Danielle and I have talked several times about why God would allow her to have MRKH.  In 1 Corinthians 10, Paul writes about temptation.  He says that God will not allow us to be tempted beyond what we can handle.  I believe that this is true not just for temptations, but for trials in general.  We all have trials in life, but God would not allow us to go through a trial and not also give us the means to handle that trial.  That is how I first viewed Danielle’s MRKH.  As a trial.  However, in many ways, I can now see it as a means through which God has, and will, bring blessings into our lives.  As I mentioned earlier, Danielle has a special way with kids.  This has shown me that she, probably more than about any one I know, has the ability to love a child unconditionally, whether that child was her own natural born child or not.
            I guess I can also tell you a little about where we are so far in the whole adoption process.  As Danielle said, we have begun to look into the Foster-Adopt program.  I, too, was originally very wary of the Foster program in general.  However, the more we look into it, the more I feel that this is the direction we should be headed.  So, this next week, Danielle will be attending an orientation program through the DSHS.  This is really the first step.  In the mean time, we will be talking to several people who have adopted through the foster system, just trying to get as much information and insight as we can.  From there, there are a few classes that we must both attend, followed by a home study.  At that point, we will officially be foster parents.  It can take anywhere from a couple of weeks to a year for a child to be placed with us.  I would expect it to be on the longer end, because, at least with the first child, we are hoping for an infant.  Some time after the child is placed with us (I don’t know how long this usually is) we will be able to begin adoption proceedings.
            This is a very exciting time in our lives.  I again want to thank you all for sharing it with us, for the prayers that I know are being said on our behalf, and for your support.  I thank God for all the family and friends he has blessed us with.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Let's start at the very beginning...

First off, please let me thank you for taking the time to view our site and read our story. Jeremiah and I appreciate all the love and support we’ve received and are continually receiving from our friends and family. You all mean so much to us!
I was diagnosed with MRKH syndrome when I was 19. I have known since then that I would not be able to have biological children unless I wanted to use a surrogate mother. As much as we would love to see what our children would look like God has definitely laid it on our hearts to pursue adopting.  We know that there are thousands of children out there who need a home and though we may not be able to offer a child the biggest and most beautiful one… we will certainly give them the most loving, caring and supportive one we can.
Jeremiah and I met at a small group in August of 2006. We are opposites in almost every way so I guess the saying “opposites attract” holds true in our relationship. We were definitely attracted to each other in that first month that we met.  I had a very outgoing personality and Jeremiah had cute eyebrows.  What can I say? A match made in heaven. ;) It wasn’t until November of that same year that our friend Jarrod Pitts connivingly got us to admit that we liked each other.
I told Jeremiah about my condition on one of our first dates. I found a hair in my food and I figured things couldn’t get any worse so why not tell him? I felt like it would probably be one of the most awkward conversations I would ever have in my life but it wasn’t. Jeremiah was very compassionate and encouraging.  I always knew that God would bring the right person into my life that would be able to support and love me the way I am. I am very thankful that Jeremiah was that person.  It might have taken him breaking up with me once and me breaking up with him a second time to realize this… but that's neither here nor there. ;) Needless to say we were happily married on September 19th of 2009.
Jeremiah is currently a document writer at Hollister Stier Laboratories. He is taking classes online through Kaplan University to finish his degree in health sciences. He would like to eventually work in the lab at Hollister Stier.
I am in the process of starting a photography business. It's been a hobby of mine for a long time and just recently I've decided to make it more than that. You can see some of my work on my photography
blog. I am also a part time nanny and I teach a music class at Westgate Christian school one day a week. And because that doesn't keep me busy enough... I also teach a step aerobics class at Spokane fitness center.
Until recently I’ve been thinking it would be 4-5 years before we started the adoption process. I knew it was going to be expensive and Jeremiah and I have been planning on saving up the amount beforehand.  I attend Northside Church of Christ here in Spokane Washington. Several months ago I was going to a ladies class on Sunday mornings led by my friend Laura Beth on motherhood. We were going through a book called Mothers of the Bible. I’m not a mother but I thought it would be a good way for me to get to know some of the other ladies in the church… and there’s no better way to get to know a woman than listening to them talk about their kids. ;) The very first class each lady was supposed to tell everyone a little bit about themselves and tell their greatest blessing of being a mother and their greatest trial. Now obviously I didn’t have anything to share about the blessings and trials of motherhood… but I felt compelled to open up to the ladies and tell them about my situation. There was so much love and support in that class and I don’t think any of those ladies will ever know how much that encouraged me. Several of the ladies approached me in the next couple weeks expressing their desire to get a fund started to help with our adoption. I was so humbled and just in awe of how God was working and is still working in our lives to make this a reality.
Jeremiah and I started doing research on adoption agencies and tried to get as much information we could. So far I had dismissed fostering. When I thought of fostering I automatically pictured having a child I was attached to taken away from me… And just thinking about that happening breaks my heart. I know I wouldn’t be able to handle that. After reading on the DSHS site it has changed the way I think about it. At this point Jeremiah and I are pretty sure we are going to pursue being foster parents in hopes of being able to adopt the child(ren) when that opportunity becomes available. I still have questions about fostering though and I am going to get together with a family friend this Saturday who has adopted several children through foster system. I’m sure I’ll learn a lot and that’s what I’m hoping for. J
Jeremiah picked up a pamphlet from DSHS on Friday which had some good information in it. I am going to try to attend their foster family orientation on March 1st. I will definitely blog about that and let you know how that goes.
We hope that by this blog you’re able to follow along with our story and become part of our family. We are very excited to see what God is going to do in our lives and would love for you all to be a part of it. J If you have any questions for Jeremiah and I please feel free to ask in the comments or email us at
We appreciate your thoughts and prayers!
God Bless,
The DuPey Family